Intimidating parents


07-May-2017 00:40

This may include compliments and recognition, child minding or baby sitting to allow parents additional free time, a Yoga or massage session for the parent, financial incentive or additional social work input.Equally important is to detail the negative consequences of continued resistant behaviour.7 Remember the child is the focus On each visit, make sure you see and talk to the child away from the carer or parent, if the child’s age and ability permits.Empty threats (remember we are talking non-violent threats) have a certain tone of voice attached to them.They sound threatening, but also often sound a bit whiny, and are loaded with emotional content. Legitimate commitments to take action -- for example, to go to the school board, from people who really intend to do just that, will have a more matter of fact feel to them.Time spent reading case information is always useful and may reduce the amount of time you need to invest in working with the family further down the line.3 Consider a fresh approach If possible, find out what any previously allocated social workers or other staff did to manage resistant behaviour from that particular family. If not, you may need to find another way to work with the family, using the following as a guide.4 Be open with the family If you think a parent or carer is using resistant behaviour, tell them as soon as you recognise it.Use straightforward, jargon-free language and back up your argument with dates and examples.

Let them know you will be making unannounced visits and will want to see other parts of the house, such as where the child slept the night before.6 Outline reasons why the parent or carer should co-operate Talk through what the service user has to gain from co-operating and offer something, if possible, which may be perceived as a reward for compliance.When you go "with" the threat, and actually offer to help, it shows confidence, and it's actually the best way to ensure the abuse stops, and the person won't bother to take things further.Regardless of the threat, the tips above will be effective, but it's good to know the difference between threats that are made simply to get to you and pressure you, and promises of action the parent will take.2 Identify resistant behaviour yourself Keep factual notes with dates and descriptions of any behaviour that indicates intimidation.



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