Online dating and phone calls
It felt like I’d missed my window and we were stuck in some type of phone-only relationship.I would prepare in your mind how you want to move from the phone to the first date.Asking questions during a phone conversation isn’t something you do randomly. Asking the right questions and in the right order can make a lasting impression and can make sure you get the date.It’s also an essential part of being a great conversationalist.I don’t see moving to phone calls as a bad thing, but I found meeting in person was much more valuable and more revealing so I aimed to get to the meeting part as quickly as I could.I found that detecting chemistry over the phone wasn’t something I was good at.I’d prepare a short list of items you’d like to talk about but avoid using it unless you have to.Try to allow the phone conversation to move along on its own but have your list as a backup.
However, with first phone calls, I did much less planning for the following reasons: Basically, with the first phone call you can escape any awkwardness easily by ending the call or you can find things to talk about while you’re on the phone.So when I think of preparing for the first phone call, it’s not really about preparing for that call at all.It’s more about preparing to move the relationship to the first date.These are not things you’re going to be able to do on a first date!
Because of the flexibility that phone conversations give you, I wouldn’t recommend going to overboard in preparing for the first phone call.
We’d be talking about some sporting event or family stuff but all I’d be thinking to myself over and over was, “After this conversation ends I’m going to ask her out….after the conversation ends I’m going to ask her out…after this conversation ends I’m going to ask her out…”.